Life n Home

UPs n downs n Ups n downs. So the roller coaster ride continues. One day I hate him and the next I'm lucky to have him. Is every relationship like this? I find myself really studying the other couples and families that we know ~ paying closer attention to the nuances of their communications both verbal and non. I think I pretty much know that what we see in the public eye is not necessarily reflective of what goes on behind closed doors. We all painta pretty picture in the sunlight but once we head indoors there's a different story being told.

One couple is getting divorced because she just no longer loves him. She seems to have reached a point where she is emotionless and above it all. Maybe not because she's cold but because that's what she has to do to be able to move on. He's devastated.

Another couple is separated and getting counseling but neither thinks its going to work out.

Another family is getting equity loans to bail out of debt.

Another family is mortgaged beyond what their single income household could possibly afford even in the best years. This explains his workaholic tendancies ~ taking work calls no matter the circumstances. So while I thought he was just so self absorbed, he's really just trying to make it work and keep his family clothed, housed, and fed. It also explains his youngests insecurity with going away from home and away from mom ~ things must be tense.

And we, well we are hanging by a thread, but hanging on nonetheless. I just made arrangements with our mortgage lender to push back two payments to the end of Jan. and the end of Feb. with plans to catch up in March and April. God willing I'll be able to do it. I've only got my income because H has decided that school is more important that making a living wage. So he has again enrolled full time for the spring semester. This after he put our household account od by 1,000 when he paid his winter school tuition....that was a week ago and that hasn't changed. He just refuses to comprehend our situation.

Another family is flailing in total turmoil as their 14 year old acts out like a total criminal, and stepdad treats her like a hated sibling rather than as a child under his umbrella of responsibility.

So what the heck is normal. Who has it among us? If you do and you know what it is, please say so - I'd love to get a clue.

siiiiggghhh...on to Christmas.