9/23/2007

On Marriage and Family

So many times this past week I had such scathing things to write about my husband - I was so frequently pissed or frustrated. But by the time I start to write it I no longer feel it. So I erase it.

This weekend he was supposed to take the girls on a camping trip. I could tell early on he was looking for a way out. If they didn't do this, or if they keep that up, .... nobody will be going anywhere.

Friday a teacher called to say 10 had been disruptive and out of control on her own during her sisters v-ball practice and game. Turns out she was wrong - and I have witnesses who say it was two other girls. But before we knew that, and certainly before H thought of every checking into it, this blew "this weekend all to hell!" Thankfully that was overcome, but not without my having to endure eons of ranting.

Today while preparing to camp - having delayed it one night already much to the girls disappointment - we discovered a MAJOR oil leak in the Honda. Mr. Gloom and Doom went on and on and on about how just when you think you're getting ahead, something slams you back down into the black hole. Or something to that effect. Ranting about car repair costs, gas costs, poor him, yadda yadda.

Not much I could do but sympathize. It's not that it doesn't affect me, but what good does that gloom and doom crap do?

Anyway I digress. The point is I was not too fond of him at that point. I was frankly tired of having to try to keep the boat afloat. I'm tired of him overreacting and acting like everything only happens to him.

But I supported. I encouraged. I sympathized. Because I knew that's what he needed. I could have bought into it all, but I didn't. Eventually he realized that its not the end of the world. The truth is we've been here before. We've been where we thought we'd lose it all - including our sanity - and we bounced back. True we have more to lose, but when we stick together we can't really lose everything. At least not the things that truly matter. The important thing is that we REMEMBER what IS TRULY IMPORTANT. Each other and our family.

Peace,
Me

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