TID Cont'd

So anyway the biggest issue was money. He contended that I dropped the ball on a property sale which could have saved our asses. I countered with the fact that he is the sole owner of the property and has to sign the listing agreement - and that I saw e-mails between him and the realtor to that effect. Not my ball. Then it segued into how abandoned I felt this past year when he declared that I was not to speak to him about bills because it depressed him and stressed him out and he needed to concentrate on school. DUH! What the heck do you think it does to me??? Especially when my partner won't share the load?

Eventually we sort of got past it as we usually do. We throw around some conceptual solutions but usually no serious progress is made. He was happy because we got the babies stuff moved up to 10's room, and he got to spend the rest of the day framing in his expanded workshop in the basement.

Somewhere in the process he achieved a greater understanding of how overwhelmed and abandoned I felt with regard to finances, and I achieved a greater understanding of how overwhelmed and abandoned he felt with regard to home repairs/projects.

Later I opened my mouth and said "you know I'm in therepay" and he said he didn't. I suspected he might because the intake paperwork carbons that I'd left on the dining room table by accident were unfolded and laying open while he was sitting there. But I guess not. I explained that I'm looking for help with focus and with my apparent inability to get through tasks of every day living and working. He seemed to respond and maybe even lay off me a little after that.

So I guess that's an improvement.