Soggy Saga

This is just another story about the main character of Drunken Drama. I completely forgot that while I was on leave her daughter had a b-day party. I hemmed and hawed about whether or not I would let my daughter go. Certainly not to the sleepover part, but maybe part of the party.

First I said no, then 13 had to babysit so I thought that was my easy out. I just hate to have to tell this woman when my daughter can't come over - never know if she'll be sober or not or ask questions, etc. It's just a tough situation - awkward.

Other parents were coming up to me to see if I was letting my child go. Every parent said no to the sleepover and just a very few of us said yes to the party - but ONLY after seeing for ourselves if she was sober or not. We felt certain she could/would be sober for the few hours of her daughters party. She was sober and I left.

When I came to pick her up the woman was drunk. GRRRR! Caring for other peoples kids and she can't NOT drink for four hours???!?!?! So she is wasted and there are two other girls there waiting for a ride who was not coming for another hour. I called their moms and told them to come pick up the kids asap because of the situation and they did.

That is definitely it. Absolutely no time over there ever for any reason or any amount of time no matter what.

GOD! If its so clear to me now, why then did I struggle so much over whether to say no??
1. I didn't want to ruin the girls birthday;
2. Even though I don't even like this woman any more I clearly had some issues with making someone mad or feel bad
3. Familiarity made it tolerable???

So I later was mad at me and felt like an ass over the fact that I put 13 in that situation or that I for one second expect her to have to pay attention to that type of situation - is she drunk or drinking or not? That sort of thing. DUH!!

Lesson learned and hopefully without putting a dent in 13's psyche.